Women are responsible for so many things! Especially women who have a family. Couple that with working full time, and it’s just a time bomb waiting to go off! There are many reasons you’re overwhelmed as a working mom and wife. For me, working is a great use of my time! I can help out with financial responsibilities. However, it’s not easy leaving my house a mess, or coming home to one either! With 3 kids, two of which are working themselves, I have their schedules to juggle as well as my own!
Let’s take a close look at what triggers our overwhelm, why we encounter this on a daily basis, and some solutions to change it. We’ll start by taking a look at the reasons you’re overwhelmed, and try to pinpoint what the cause is. Then, discover some solutions to start on a path to change the circumstances!
What Does Overwhelm Feel Like?
When you feel overwhelmed, you can’t concentrate, you’re worried or unable to focus. Thoughts race through your mind from a hundred different directions. You can’t channel any sort of energy to stay on a course for productivity. You’re just plain distracted by your overwhelm!
You’re Overwhelmed As A Mom
Being overwhelmed as a mom leaves you feeling depressed, confused, unmotivated and frustrated. You’re saying or thinking things like, “I can’t handle this!” or “I give up! I don’t want to do this anymore!”
You’re Overwhelmed As A Wife
As an overwhelmed wife, you most likely have many frustrating days with your husband. Wondering why he isn’t helping more around the house, or why you can’t just have some time away and let him deal with it all.
How To Find The Reasons You’re Overwhelmed
Start with a journal, and write about the reasons you’re overwhelmed. Make a calendar and track the number of days a week you face this feeling. This might give you some insight as to what is going on. Maybe there’s a day when you have more on your plate than other days.
Think about what is happening before this feeling, and when you remember being happy prior to this. Was it in the morning? the day before? or just an hour earlier? Go back to that memory, and try and remember what caused your mood to shift. Write it down and journal about it!
Change your overwhelm right now
Pray about what you discover. How can you fight against that feeling? Some ideas for an immediate fix are:
Take a short break or walk away
Allowing yourself to walk away is an amazingly effective way to calm yourself. Get outside if you can. This also removes yourself from the situation, which may keep you from reacting in a way that you’ll regret later. Trust me, there are many times I WISH I had done this.
Talk to someone
Call a friend if you have a few minutes to chat and diffuse your feelings or turn on some of your favorite upbeat music to get your mind reset!
Organize your thoughts
Sometimes, I find it helpful to write a list out on paper to de-clutter my head. This simple task called a “brain dump” is also highly effective. After you’ve created your list, you can organize, categorize and prioritize your tasks. If all else fails, grab a glass of water or juice and take a 5-minute break.
7 Reasons You’re an Overwhelmed Working Mom And Wife
Reason 1: You don’t wake up before your kids
Waking up at least 30 minutes before your kids is one of the best ways to fight the overwhelmed working mom and wife struggles. It’s crucial to have a plan for the day! When you aren’t up before your little ones, they need you as soon as you get your feet on the floor in the morning! That leaves you no time for yourself!
Reason 2: You don’t take time for self care
As women, we all need a little attention now and then. However, when all we do from sun up to sun down is fulfill the needs of everyone around us, this leaves no time in the day, week, or month for #1! You deserve an hour to read a book, take a bath, do a face mask, eat cake in bed if you want!
Reason 3: You are always behind on your tasks
Whether you work or stay at home, the housework piles up quickly when life gets busy. Being behind drives me crazy! This creates a domino effect in the home, and it can take a few hours if not a whole day to feel back on track again.
Reason 4: You don’t maximize your time
Time management is key to be a working or a stay at home mom, but there are ways to accomplish this, h
Reason 5: You don’t have a project or hobby
I absolutely look forward to coming home every day! But then what? We cook dinner, clean up, prep for the next busy day. When you don’t have a project to work on or book to read, you find yourself wasting time watching TV. having a project or hobby helps with goal setting. Set a goal to have tasks and housework accomplished so that you can do the things you enjoy!
Reason 6: You have negative relationships in your life
When we have negative relationships around us, it bring us down. You don’t need to avoid any and all negative people by any means. However, the amount of time we invest in these people should be limited.
Reasons 7: Your home is cluttered or disorganized
Personally, when I come home to a messy and cluttered space, my first thought is how much more work is needed in order to get things back on track. Leaving the house like this, or coming home can lead to feeling overwhelmed. The longer we put off these responsibilities only makes the negative feelings worse.
Meal planning is another stress for moms. Providing healthy meals instead of take-out or eating out every night is hugely satisfying. Although eating out occasionally is unavoidable, the financial and health benefits of cooking and eating at home are amazing! Being stuck in a meal planning rut makes you feel overwhelmed as a mom and wife!
How To Resolve Your Overwhelm
Fight back today with these simple steps. Work against the stress and overwhelm as a mom and wife. You have the power to change the dynamic of your home!
Spiritual Solutions For Your Overwhelm
Start with a consistent morning routine. Waking up earlier than your family allows you to;
- Spend time with the Lord
- Focus on the needs of your day
- Get organized
- Have a peaceful start to the day
- Plan ahead
Set your coffee pot on auto for the morning, and try taking this time to focus on reading God’s word and prayer each morning for a few weeks. You can even grab a cute new journal and a special pen to keep you motivated to write down your prayers and study notes. I’ve recently gone back through the prayers in my own journal and been amazed at how God answers them. It’s also a beautiful way to see how the Lord works in your life!
Organizational Solutions For Your Overwhelm
Try keeping up on daily, weekly and monthly tasks with a cleaning routine! This will help you keep your home de-cluttered and more organized.
Read my post on Meal planning and grab some of my printables from the resources page to get you started! This will help reduce the overwhelmed mom feelings.
Emotional Solutions For Your Overwhelm
Positive friendships are pretty easy to pinpoint. If your friend helps nurture good things in your life, supports you, encourages you, and is there to listen when you’ve had a bad day, that’s a relationship worth investing more into. Here’s a cute way of looking at friendships through the 5 love languages (by Joy Because Grace).
If you have people in your life that take more of you than you are able to offer, are never there when you need them, or bring you down when you’re together, that’s is a relationship you can let go of, or invest less into.
Try spending less time with these people. Instead of eliminating them altogether. Set clear boundaries on your time and space. Keep gatherings on your terms, and stick with it! If needed, take a break from getting together for a while.
In the past, I have prayed this prayer. “Lord, If this relationship is not good for me, or if it is holding me back, please help me to limit my time and set boundaries, or remove this person altogether if needed.
Fight Back Against You’re Overwhelm
If you want some ideas for a meaningful quiet time with the Lord, Head over to the Faith Page. You’ll find some great study ideas to get you started!
Being overwhelmed as a mom or wife is extremely difficult. Choose to make some positive changes with these solutions and get out of the negative rut. What are the reasons you’re overwhelmed? Comment below if you have some more ideas for me and other moms to fight against it!